You shouldn’t trust clothes sizes


If there’s one thing that’s really bothering me recently, it’s clothes sizes. I’ve been out and about shopping quite a bit trying to pick up some new bits and pieces for my summer wardrobe. The problem is that nothing seems to fit right. Now I wouldn’t consider myself to be overweight. I’m a UK size 12, I’m around 5ft 4, and I weight about 10st 5. I eat healthily, I exercise, and I drink lots of water. This is why I find it so disheartening to walk into my favourite shop, to pick something out in my size and for it not to fit. It’s confusing and it makes me feel fat. Girls shouldn’t have to deal with this.

I think the main problem is that clothes from different shops in the same size have different measurements. For example, I can go into New Look and buy a top in size 12, and then go into Primark and have to buy a size 14. I’m not saying that there’s anything wrong with either of those sizes, but why does this happen? Why isn’t there just a universal measurement for each size?

Another problem I often find is that women’s clothes seem to be made for women who have a straighter figure than myself. I consider myself to be quite curvy, and find it ridiculous that there doesn’t seem to be many clothing stores that accomodate for my figure. I understand that some women do have straighter figures, but instead of completing discriminating towards women with body shapes like myself, why can’t there be more of a choice?

Buying jeans is my least favourite task. They never seem to fit right both in the leg length and around the waist; it’s always either one or the other. Luckily, I’ve found somewhere which does seem to accomodate for both in Dorothy Perkins. In their petite section you can buy a size 12, and gasp, it actually fits well.

Possibly the worst thing about women’s clothing are when they come in sizes such as S, M, L etc. Both H and M and Forever 21 do this, and it drives me crazy. I’m quite petite, but because of my curves, cannot fit into a Small, meaning that the Medium completely drowns me in some places and then is too tight in others.

Online shopping is a complete pain, as due to the fluctuation of sizes, I prefer to try on before I buy. The amount of times I’ve ordered something online and then had to send it back because it’s nowhere near the size it said it is!

I just think that the fashion industry needs to be a bit more generous towards women of ALL shapes and sizes. The average clothing size of women in the UK is a 14, and yet what even is a 14 anymore? We don’t deserve to feel rubbish about ourselves for something that isn’t accurate and that isn’t fair.

Does anyone else have this problem?



How to relax


I’m the sort of person who constantly gets stressed about little things, and that’s why I’ve decided to share some tips on how to destress when the going gets tough. I’ve found that doing some of these things really helps, and gets you back into that calm sense of mind that you need.

Shut off your technology- As someone who’s constantly on their phone I know firsthand that this can be really hard, but you’ll be surprised at how good it feels. When we’re constantly on our phones, our brains are constantly buzzing, and we feel like we’re being demanded at. Turning off your phone really gives you a sense of zen, and I know that it really helps me after a stressful day.

Read a book- There’s nothing better than curling up on the sofa with a new novel in your hands. Reading allows you to escape the world around you, and helps you get lost in another person’s thoughts. It’s so relaxing, and I try and read for at least half an hour a night before I go to sleep.

Drink a cup of tea- There’s a reason that us Brits are constantly drinking it, as it’s a great solution to everything. It’s a lot more calming than coffee, though I have to say that I do tend to drink coffee if I’m feeling stressed early on in the day. I’ve recently got into drinking green tea, and fruit tea. My favourites are salted caramel green tea, and raspberry and mango fruit tea, and I find that they really relax me.

Go for a walk- I live just around the corner from the canal, and find that an evening stroll in the sunshine is a great way to destress. I normally go with my boyfriend and it really gives us a chance to talk about any stresses of the day.

Run a hot bath- I normally take a bath around mid week or towards the end of the week when I’m burned out and tired. I tend to add loads of bubble bath, and take a good book in there with me. It feels so nice to be soothed by the water, but just be careful that you don’t fall asleep in there! Treat yourself by taking some lovely smelling bath gel in there with you.

Cook yourself something tasty– A year ago I could barely cook anything, but nowadays I cook most meals in our flat. I find it to be really therapeutic and the bonus is that you get a lovely (hopefully!) tasting meal at the end of it. Try following something you’ve never tried before out of a recipe book, or, if you’re feeling confident, try making up your own recipe.

Plan your next holiday- If it’s your day to day life that’s getting you down, try planning your next holiday to somewhere new and exciting. After feeling really stressed with university exams and deadlines recently, I booked a holiday to Croatia where I can hopefully catch some rays, relax and take in the sights.

Do you have any tips for relaxing?


Thought of the day

“Happiness is found when you stop comparing yourself to other people”

Like most people, I find myself constantly wanting to be like other people. In our culture it’s so easy to do this whether we’re comparing ourselves to our peers, or families or celebrities that we’ve never even met. I don’t spend enough time being proud of myself, because I worry that I’m being selfish, or that I will appear vain. But at the same time, I expect other people to admire me, and then I lend up in a sort of vicious circle.

I find myself comparing myself to other people in silly ways sometimes. I look at fellow bloggers (my absolute new favourite is Audrey Leighton whose Frassy blog is absolutely gorgeous as well as stylish and inspirational) and wish that my life was more like theirs. I want to be travelling around the world, soaking up the sunshine and experiencing new cultures. What I don’t remember is that this is not the only thing that these people do. They’ve worked hard to get where they are, and if I put my mind to it, I could one day achieve something like that. Instead of focusing on comparing myself to others,  I should be working hard too, to achieve my own personal goals.

Sometimes I wish I was more like my friends, whether it’s the fact that they’ve done better than me in exams, or they’ve got a job, or they’ve passed their driving test. What I need to remember is that, at least I’ve passed my exams. I’ve had jobs before and I’ll have jobs again. And one day, despite the fact that it’s taking me forever to drive, I will pass my driving test.

The worst type of comparisons I make are to celebrities such as Nina Dobrev, or Taylor Swift. I wish that I was as skinny as they are, I wish that I was as tanned, that I had loads of money. What I don’t remember is that okay, I might not be super skinny, but at a size 12, I’m not fat either. Although I might not be tanned, I have nice pale skin that goes well with my green eyes and subtle freckles. Nina Dobrev and Taylor Swift are gorgeous but I’m never going to look like them, and that’s fine. People still think that I look okay, and I still have a boyfriend that loves me the way I am. It doesn’t matter that I’m not everything they are, because I’m unique in myself.

So from now on, let’s try and focus on ourselves and how great we are. We need more self confidence, and it’s not vain to be that way.

What’re your thoughts?


Don’t underestimate classic style


In a world where so many style options are available to us, so many of deter away from the sophisticated classic style that icons such as Audrey Hepburn and Grace Kelly embraced. Instead of classy black outfits which only reveal tell tale bits of skin, we squeeze ourselves into tiny outfits that leave nothing to be modest about. It’s part of our culture to be this way.

That’s why recently I’ve started to cling to the classic wardrobe staples. As I put on my red lipstick and see strawberry kisses all over my coffee cup later on in the day, I feel strong and powerful as it makes my hair look glossier, and my eyes look brighter. It makes me stand out from the crowd. My tailored black trousers cling to my curves, fitting in all the right places, and my high heels make my legs feel longer. As I walk down the street I feel people’s eyes on me. I look like a woman on a mission, a woman who’s going places in the world. There’s something to say for this type of dressing as it makes you feel so feminine and confident, like the world is at your finger tips. It’s power dressing in the best form.

The best thing about this style of dressing is that you can never go wrong. My camel trench coat will still be keeping me looking on trend and fashionable in ten years’ time; it won’t go out of date like a lot of the clothes you find on the high street do. Classic style keeps you looking polished and perfect whilst at the same time giving you a laidback edge, as if you haven’t really tried at all. It doesn’t look like you’ve tried too hard or like you haven’t tried enough. Don’t underestimate classic style. It could be just what you need.Do you like classic style?