How to relax

I’m the sort of person who constantly gets stressed about little things, and that’s why I’ve decided to share some tips on how to destress when the going gets tough. I’ve found that doing some of these things really helps, and gets you back into that calm sense of mind that you need.

Shut off your technology- As someone who’s constantly on their phone I know firsthand that this can be really hard, but you’ll be surprised at how good it feels. When we’re constantly on our phones, our brains are constantly buzzing, and we feel like we’re being demanded at. Turning off your phone really gives you a sense of zen, and I know that it really helps me after a stressful day.

Read a book- There’s nothing better than curling up on the sofa with a new novel in your hands. Reading allows you to escape the world around you, and helps you get lost in another person’s thoughts. It’s so relaxing, and I try and read for at least half an hour a night before I go to sleep.

Drink a cup of tea- There’s a reason that us Brits are constantly drinking it, as it’s a great solution to everything. It’s a lot more calming than coffee, though I have to say that I do tend to drink coffee if I’m feeling stressed early on in the day. I’ve recently got into drinking green tea, and fruit tea. My favourites are salted caramel green tea, and raspberry and mango fruit tea, and I find that they really relax me.

Go for a walk- I live just around the corner from the canal, and find that an evening stroll in the sunshine is a great way to destress. I normally go with my boyfriend and it really gives us a chance to talk about any stresses of the day.

Run a hot bath- I normally take a bath around mid week or towards the end of the week when I’m burned out and tired. I tend to add loads of bubble bath, and take a good book in there with me. It feels so nice to be soothed by the water, but just be careful that you don’t fall asleep in there! Treat yourself by taking some lovely smelling bath gel in there with you.

Cook yourself something tasty– A year ago I could barely cook anything, but nowadays I cook most meals in our flat. I find it to be really therapeutic and the bonus is that you get a lovely (hopefully!) tasting meal at the end of it. Try following something you’ve never tried before out of a recipe book, or, if you’re feeling confident, try making up your own recipe.

Plan your next holiday- If it’s your day to day life that’s getting you down, try planning your next holiday to somewhere new and exciting. After feeling really stressed with university exams and deadlines recently, I booked a holiday to Croatia where I can hopefully catch some rays, relax and take in the sights.

Do you have any tips for relaxing?

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Thought of the day

“Happiness is found when you stop comparing yourself to other people”

Like most people, I find myself constantly wanting to be like other people. In our culture it’s so easy to do this whether we’re comparing ourselves to our peers, or families or celebrities that we’ve never even met. I don’t spend enough time being proud of myself, because I worry that I’m being selfish, or that I will appear vain. But at the same time, I expect other people to admire me, and then I lend up in a sort of vicious circle.

I find myself comparing myself to other people in silly ways sometimes. I look at fellow bloggers (my absolute new favourite is Audrey Leighton whose Frassy blog is absolutely gorgeous as well as stylish and inspirational) and wish that my life was more like theirs. I want to be travelling around the world, soaking up the sunshine and experiencing new cultures. What I don’t remember is that this is not the only thing that these people do. They’ve worked hard to get where they are, and if I put my mind to it, I could one day achieve something like that. Instead of focusing on comparing myself to others, I should be working hard too, to achieve my own personal goals.

Sometimes I wish I was more like my friends, whether it’s the fact that they’ve done better than me in exams, or they’ve got a job, or they’ve passed their driving test. What I need to remember is that, at least I’ve passed my exams. I’ve had jobs before and I’ll have jobs again. And one day, despite the fact that it’s taking me forever to drive, I will pass my driving test.

The worst type of comparisons I make are to celebrities such as Nina Dobrev, or Taylor Swift. I wish that I was as skinny as they are, I wish that I was as tanned, that I had loads of money. What I don’t remember is that okay, I might not be super skinny, but at a size 12, I’m not fat either. Although I might not be tanned, I have nice pale skin that goes well with my green eyes and subtle freckles. Nina Dobrev and Taylor Swift are gorgeous but I’m never going to look like them, and that’s fine. People still think that I look okay, and I still have a boyfriend that loves me the way I am. It doesn’t matter that I’m not everything they are, because I’m unique in myself.

So from now on, let’s try and focus on ourselves and how great we are. We need more self confidence, and it’s not vain to be that way.

What’re your thoughts?

Thought of the day

“Drink tea, read books, be happy”

I’m the sort of person who constantly feels like they should be doing something or going somewhere new. The thought of a day with nothing planned terrifies me, and I hate waking up with nowhere to go and no one to see.

Since leaving college, where I was in every day from nine till four, and starting university I’ve found myself with so much free time. For a lot of people all this free time is great as it leaves time for sleeping, Netflix and just general pottering around, but for me it’s the worst thing in the world.

Take this weekend for example. Bear in mind that I’m currently on a work placement where I’m in full time from Monday from Friday. On Friday night I was quite happy to just stay and chill with a glass of wine after a long working week. On Saturday there was the usual errands to run such as shopping, getting the boyfriend’s hair cut, and popping into town for some hair dye, and on Saturday evening, I went for dinner with some friends at Coast to Coast. Then it rolled round to Sunday, and suddenly I was faced with the one thing I hate the most- having no plans all day long. I tried to fill out the day by cooking a breakfast, taking a long shower, and watching a film. But by four o clock I was bored. And it wasn’t as if I’d been sat in all weekend either.

I wish that I was the type of person to be able to just take comfort in doing nothing but I’m not. I’m a creature of routines, I love trying new things, and despite complaining when I’m exhausted, love being busy. But the problem is, I need to understand that not everyone feels like I do and that not everyone loves rushing through life at 100mph like I do.

Instead of moaning about all my free time I need to ravish it, as it’s not going to be this way forever. One day I’m going to have proper responsibilities. I need to start spending my free time wisely, catching up on all that TV that I’ve missed, watching all those films that I want to watch, and taking as many long, hot baths as I can. And I need to know that there’s all the time in the world for me to try new experiences and that I don’t need to rush through everything. I need to take my time, relish in the smaller things, and to just enjoy the big things when they happen instead of spending all my relax days waiting for them to happen.

Thought of the day

At some point in most people’s lives, people worry. The majority of people worry every single day about something whether it’s something major or something tiny. As a student, it’s so easy to spend too much time fretting, whether that’s fretting about being able to afford your weekly food shop or worrying about affording drinks on a night out. Then there’s emotional worries about whether we’re gonna pass our next assignment, or whether we’re gonna get a date with that cute guy that we really fancy.

The problem is that we’re spending too much time worrying. At the end of the day, we have to remember that we’re not psychic and we can’t change the outcome of something once we’ve done something. Well at least the majority of the time, and hey, if you know you’ve done everything you can to change the outcome, then remember there’s nothing more you can do except sit back and relax.

I worry all the time. Sometimes I worry about irrational things, irrational things such as what would happen if a spider came into my flat when I was alone and there was no one to get rid of it apart from me, who’s completely utterly and terrified by spiders. But what’s the point in worrying about things like that? If it happened, I’d probably scream a lot and hide in a different room, but the point is I’d survive. It wouldn’t change my life at all.

Sometimes I worry about completely normal things like what I’m going to do when I graduate, but in this case, I know I’m working my socks off to get the best grades I can, and I’m trying to gain work experience, so what more can I do?

I think what I’m trying to say is that, a little bit of worry is normal. But don’t let it take over your life. Next time I’m worrying away about something stupid I’m going to run myself a hot bath with loads of bubbles, and try to get rid of some of that stress. It won’t completely remove my worries, but it’ll take my mind off things for a bit, after all I’m only human.